I’m With The Band – Confessions Of A Groupie

By Pamela Des Barres
Beech Tree Books – William Morrow – New York
1987

Pamela Des Barres, the worlds most famous groupie and founding member of the Zappa-esque all girl group The G.T.O’s, reveals her whirlwind lifestyle along side some of the most influential celebrities, musicians and generally interesting members of the late 60’s and early 70’s southern California scene. Can one young woman really rub elbows (and other body parts) with the likes of Frank Zappa, Jimmy Page, Mick Jagger, Chris Hillman, Gram Parsons, Waylon Jennings, Keith Moon, Don Johnson, Michael Des Barres and others and still live to tell about it? Not only has Pamela Des Barres done just that, she has documented it all in this book including excerpts from her own personal diaries and the playful personality of her impeccable memory. Following “Miss Pamela” on her quest to convince Chris Hillman that she and he were meant for each other, leads the reader past Gram Parsons in a most candid and uncensored way. Contrary to the “matter of fact” style often applied by Parsons historians such as Ben Fong-Torres and Sid Griffin, Pamela’s touching insight and her genuine motherly concern for the reckless GP offers a strikingly warm portrait of Gram. While baby-sitting Gram’s daughter Polly Parsons, Miss Pamela’s diary entries display a sad silent plea for the safety of the often unrestrained GP and a sympathy for his daughter’s worried mother Nancy, as she questions the security of her relationship with Gram. The friendship of the outrageously eccentric GP and the obviously awed Miss Pamela hints of an ironic angst that the glitzy Gram will most probably burn out before he fades away. Pamela’s descriptions of Gram, along with most of the other more famous members in her clique, paint an interesting portrait of each as they evolve from the often cartoon first impression, to the most personal depths of their intimacy.

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